The message that women invite rape is everywhere. It is literally the background noise of our lives. A constant and persisting buzz that permeates every aspect of our experience and settles deep in the skin. It is the online harassment we are subjected to, magazine advertisements telling us our bodies are for the taking, the films we watch, in campaigns meant to keep us safe — simple thinly veiled victim blaming wrapped up as advice, cat calls and the very words spoken by our abusers. It’s in the inevitable light sentences, to protect the abuser’s careers. And it all reinforces the message that sexual violence is the collateral damage of being a woman and we are all just supposed to accept that.