When Dana Warren felt she had lost her way, she turned to a life coach to help her find a new path. Now she‚Äôs offering that same assistance to others.
Looking for a new direction in life, Dana Warren put aside her reservations and consulted a life coach. The experience so affected her she did the training required to open her own practice. ‚ÄĒ Photo by Sarah Smellie/Special to The Telegram
In order to become a coach, Dana Warren needed a little coaching herself. With a long career in the film industry that culminated in a top career in advertising, Warren was, by all accounts, a successful 40-year-old woman. But she wasn‚Äôt quite convinced.
‚ÄúI was feeling this level of manageable dissatisfaction,‚ÄĚ says Warren. ‚ÄúIt was OK because I could still do all of the things I wanted to do, but I was really, really tired of just giving it out all the time.‚ÄĚ
Then tragedy struck.
‚ÄúI wanted to have a baby and do all of these things that I had sidestepped for a career,‚ÄĚ she says. ‚ÄúAnd the man with whom I was building all of these plans dropped dead. You can imagine what that was like. So, I sort of fell on the floor at that point in my life and when I opened my eyes, I thought, ‚ÄėWhat am I doing?‚Äô I was sitting there, spinning this wheel in this job, and I thought, ‚ÄėI can‚Äôt live this any more. This is not what I need to do and where I need to be.‚Äô‚ÄĚ
Warren came across an article about life coaching written by Dr. Amanda Wintink, a personal life coach with a Ph.D. in psychology and neuroscience.
Like a lot of people, she was suspicious of the term ‚Äúlife coach,‚ÄĚ which is often thought of as a new-agey, soft-science trend. But Wintink used the science of the mind to help people establish and achieve their goals.
‚ÄúHer approach to coaching is through neuroscience, psychology, mindfulness and meditation,‚ÄĚ she says. ‚ÄúSo the first thing I did was call this woman and say, ‚ÄėI think I need a coach. And I like you, because you‚Äôre not the hokey part of coaching.‚Äô‚ÄĚ
Warren and Wintink started to work together. Warren was so impressed with Wintink‚Äôs approach, and the results she saw in her own life, that she signed up for life coach training in Nova Scotia at the Centre for Applied Neuroscience Coaching, which is run by Wintink.
She underwent a six-month intensive study that included courses in psychology and neuroscience.
‚ÄúI had always had this secret desire to be a psychologist,‚ÄĚ she said. ‚ÄúI‚Äôd attacked that a couple of times, but it was a long career path. I had also started to look around at what kinds of opportunities there might be where I could include my life experience.‚ÄĚ
Now, two and a half years later, she‚Äôs a personal life coach at her company, DMW Coaching, and working towards certification with the International Coach Federation.
Her acceptance of life coaching as a legitimate practice reflects a growing trend.
‚ÄúLife coaching is more than legitimate,‚ÄĚ says Dr. Don Morrow, a professor at Western University‚Äôs faculty of health sciences who studies life coaching as an intervention method for health problems. ‚ÄúIt‚Äôs accepted.‚ÄĚ
Morrow says that personal life coaching is common practice in Britain and in many European countries. It‚Äôs now catching on in North America, too.
‚ÄúUnfortunately, I think it‚Äôs like what the fitness industry used to be, in that anyone can call themselves a life coach,‚ÄĚ he says. ‚ÄúBut it‚Äôs becoming increasingly professional in that there‚Äôs the International Coaching Federation, which has over 20,000 members and a standardized accreditation system. I think that‚Äôs as critical for life coaching just as it is for medicine or any other profession.‚ÄĚ
All members of the ICF abide by a set of core ethics, and have had certified training and have been practising for a specified time. People interested in a personal or business coach can look up certified coaches in their area or write to the ICF about what sort of coaching they‚Äôre looking for and ask to be referred to a coach. And that coach need not be close by: Morrow estimates that 80 to 85 per cent of coaching takes place over the phone.
While many members of the ICF have backgrounds and even qualifications as psychologists and therapists, life coaching isn‚Äôt therapy. If coaches think a client could use the expertise of a psychologist, they will refer them to one.
‚ÄúWhere therapy might go back and ask what happened to create a situation, most coaches aren‚Äôt qualified or certified to do that,‚ÄĚ says Morrow. ‚ÄúCoaching starts with where are you now and where you want to be. I‚Äôll be frank and say I think a lot of life coaching is not common sense, but it‚Äôs common in the sense that the skills that are taught are the skills that should be taught in school.‚ÄĚ
Warren echos that philosophy.
‚ÄúIt‚Äôs not like we learn how to not procrastinate when we‚Äôre in school,‚ÄĚ she says. ‚ÄúWe learn how to conform, how to be quiet and do well, but we don‚Äôt learn a lot of the skills that we need to be self-motivated. People are usually motivated with a small ‚Äėm.‚Äô They come to me wanting to change, but they‚Äôre not sure how to attack it. Coaching, in its simplest form, is about now and moving forward. It‚Äôs not about the fixing, which is traditionally what the psychologists do.‚ÄĚ
She says the growth of her life coaching practice has been slow but, like the profession itself, it‚Äôs catching on.
‚ÄúI think that people are lacking mentors in their lives,‚ÄĚ she says. ‚ÄúThe thing that I took for granted about living here was this multi-generational life, how you could go to an art opening and see people who were 16 years old and people who were 71. But here, now, there‚Äôs less of that.‚ÄĚ
‚ÄúI also think that people are realizing that they don‚Äôt necessarily need psychologists,‚ÄĚ she adds. ‚ÄúThey need help with accountability and motivation and clarity in their lives, and there‚Äôs an answer for that.‚ÄĚ
And while she‚Äôs found the answer that works for her, and has provided the same for others, she‚Äôs not claiming to have it all figured out.
‚ÄúI think I‚Äôll be in the ground before that happens,‚ÄĚ she says, laughing. ‚ÄúI think that‚Äôs the definition of dying. But I am more fulfilled than I have ever been in my life, on an emotional level and even on a physical level. I live a truer life in terms of that connectedness to who I am and what I want to be doing. I do fall, but getting back up again is easier.‚ÄĚ