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  • Moose
    July 02, 2010 - 13:32

    Eighteen months ago, Sarah went snooping on her husband's computer and opened a deleted file.

    I would have had her charged. Criminal Trespass. Just the those at Eastern Health for going into peoples files. This type of behaviour is getting out of control. More needs to be done to protect peoples rights to privacy rather then opening up everything for all to see and hear. Cameras on the streets, in homes. Whats next, your toilet bowl to count and record your stool movements? Give it time, if we do not stand up to these abuses we will have no rights left other then the right to hand over our money and property to governments.

  • Elaine
    July 02, 2010 - 13:32

    Willy you just made my day! Thanks again!

  • Anon
    July 02, 2010 - 13:31

    Everyone's a sex addict. Im a sex addict.
    Might as well face it your addicted to love.

  • Mona
    July 02, 2010 - 13:31

    I agree with Calvin from NL. I don't believe there's any such thing as sex addiction, they use that as a crutch when they get caught and play it to the hilt.

  • Jackie
    July 02, 2010 - 13:30

    I was in a relationship with a person who I believe may have been an addict. He constantly hid his phone, would close up his computer if I walked into the room, and eventually hooked up with other women behind my back. It's hard not to take it personally. I think women who vow to stand by their husbands during these times are strong and deserve a lot of respect. It's not easy to look someone in the eye and say you still love them, even after they've broken your trust.

  • WTF
    July 02, 2010 - 13:27

    If you like pina coladas then be careful, there's a lot of Lolas on the web.

  • Heather
    July 02, 2010 - 13:24

    Hmm - its seems all sex additcts are married. Any excuse for infidelity.

  • Can I
    July 02, 2010 - 13:24

    The real illness is the fact that this is an invasion of personal privacy. She might as well intercept letter mail and read it as well. Knowing your limits saves you from things you are better off not knowing.

  • Willie
    July 02, 2010 - 13:23

    If you have a nosey spouse and you're having an affair on the internet (who isn't) you're better off dumping your recycle bin and deleting your cookies regularly.

    Willie Hunt
    Pouch Cove NL

  • Watcher
    July 02, 2010 - 13:22

    South Park did a great episode addressing this whole sex addiction thing recently. Everytime a man said he had an addiction, he'd give a sideways glance to see if anyone was falling for it.

    This is because there is no such thing as sex addiction... it's called being male.

  • Whatever Bud
    July 02, 2010 - 13:19

    Everything in the media lately is about Tiger Woods and sex addiction.It's only sex addiction if you are having so much sex, you don't have time to have sex. Rest assured,they'll have a new pill out to fight sex addiction soon.Something that will turn you into a depressed,fat,drooling mess who can't face the world.See,sometimes the cure is worse that the (imagined) disease.

  • Calvin
    July 02, 2010 - 13:19

    I think this is one of the biggest jokes of modern therapy. My wife doesnt want to have relations near as much as I do, but Never once have I considered going out and cheating on my wife and then saying, but honey, I am addicted to sex. She tells me I am addicted to sex all the time, but she wouldnt be stupid enough to stay with me if I cheated on her. Grow a backbone lady and tell your husband to stop using sex addiction as an excuse for infidelity. With the criteria outlined as being a sex addict, any person is a sex addict.

  • Donald Michael
    July 02, 2010 - 13:18

    This post is very problematic. Sarah and her husband have deep communication problems. He isn't communicating with her, manifesting with physiological responses or being fidgety. She either doesn't try to communicate with him to discover the problem or can't communicate with him and shows that she doesn't trust him by invading his privacy. Ignoring the issues of the breakdown of communication and trust, Chris Zdeb now uses Sarah--who seems to base her knowledge on looking at a test on a website--as an expert. She is not.

    Sarah (and, I assume the website that gives her expertise) claims that his coming ...from a home where there was no bond between him and his mother. His parents were very domineering, not nurturing, not loving, and they shamed him. Everything he did was never good enough. This, she claims, makes him a textbook case. She doesn't explain how tens of thousands of people with similar upbringing don't feel it is necessary to break vows of marriage fidelity.

    Whether or not sex addiction is a real illness has nothing to do with this couple. Their issues are trust, communication, honesty, and the development of effective coping mechanisms to deal with personal issues. His breaking of marital vows are only a manifestation of these issues. I would respectfully suggest that they both need counseling as individuals and as a couple.

  • Sounding
    July 02, 2010 - 13:17

    Ladies! Listen! Red flags are working on a report or checking the lotto results at 1.30 am every night on the computer and those Blackberry's.. the sex addiction thing is a farce. The Roman's knew how to party

  • Anne
    July 02, 2010 - 13:17

    Women are nuts, I wonder would he have been as sympathic if the shoe was on the other foot. I'd take the kids and run.

  • Whaddaya At ?
    July 02, 2010 - 13:16

    It seems that 99% of so called 'sex addicts' are married. Hmmm.

  • Real
    July 02, 2010 - 13:14

    Really? Someone got married at 18 and there's a problem? You don't say...

  • Jerome
    July 02, 2010 - 13:12

    To First Post: I'd rather know than be made a complete fool of, and even more so, total disrespect. How many would know, except me? Certainly it would hurt; it would be absolutely devastating; but I would rather know.
    As for privacy, if he is using the
    home computer, then he should know that the possibility of being found out exists. A home computer is for everyone in the household to use. The person should have more of a conscience than be carrying on like this on the computer when his wife/partner is close by.

  • Tim
    July 02, 2010 - 13:10

    To whom is this man married? I believe it is the one who has the right to know what is happening without her (or the rest of her family's) knowledge. Go away with your politically correct illusions of reality.

  • Moose
    July 01, 2010 - 20:20

    Eighteen months ago, Sarah went snooping on her husband's computer and opened a deleted file.

    I would have had her charged. Criminal Trespass. Just the those at Eastern Health for going into peoples files. This type of behaviour is getting out of control. More needs to be done to protect peoples rights to privacy rather then opening up everything for all to see and hear. Cameras on the streets, in homes. Whats next, your toilet bowl to count and record your stool movements? Give it time, if we do not stand up to these abuses we will have no rights left other then the right to hand over our money and property to governments.

  • Elaine
    July 01, 2010 - 20:20

    Willy you just made my day! Thanks again!

  • Anon
    July 01, 2010 - 20:20

    Everyone's a sex addict. Im a sex addict.
    Might as well face it your addicted to love.

  • Mona
    July 01, 2010 - 20:20

    I agree with Calvin from NL. I don't believe there's any such thing as sex addiction, they use that as a crutch when they get caught and play it to the hilt.

  • Jackie
    July 01, 2010 - 20:18

    I was in a relationship with a person who I believe may have been an addict. He constantly hid his phone, would close up his computer if I walked into the room, and eventually hooked up with other women behind my back. It's hard not to take it personally. I think women who vow to stand by their husbands during these times are strong and deserve a lot of respect. It's not easy to look someone in the eye and say you still love them, even after they've broken your trust.

  • WTF
    July 01, 2010 - 20:15

    If you like pina coladas then be careful, there's a lot of Lolas on the web.

  • Heather
    July 01, 2010 - 20:10

    Hmm - its seems all sex additcts are married. Any excuse for infidelity.

  • Can I
    July 01, 2010 - 20:10

    The real illness is the fact that this is an invasion of personal privacy. She might as well intercept letter mail and read it as well. Knowing your limits saves you from things you are better off not knowing.

  • Willie
    July 01, 2010 - 20:07

    If you have a nosey spouse and you're having an affair on the internet (who isn't) you're better off dumping your recycle bin and deleting your cookies regularly.

    Willie Hunt
    Pouch Cove NL

  • Watcher
    July 01, 2010 - 20:06

    South Park did a great episode addressing this whole sex addiction thing recently. Everytime a man said he had an addiction, he'd give a sideways glance to see if anyone was falling for it.

    This is because there is no such thing as sex addiction... it's called being male.

  • Whatever Bud
    July 01, 2010 - 20:02

    Everything in the media lately is about Tiger Woods and sex addiction.It's only sex addiction if you are having so much sex, you don't have time to have sex. Rest assured,they'll have a new pill out to fight sex addiction soon.Something that will turn you into a depressed,fat,drooling mess who can't face the world.See,sometimes the cure is worse that the (imagined) disease.

  • Calvin
    July 01, 2010 - 20:01

    I think this is one of the biggest jokes of modern therapy. My wife doesnt want to have relations near as much as I do, but Never once have I considered going out and cheating on my wife and then saying, but honey, I am addicted to sex. She tells me I am addicted to sex all the time, but she wouldnt be stupid enough to stay with me if I cheated on her. Grow a backbone lady and tell your husband to stop using sex addiction as an excuse for infidelity. With the criteria outlined as being a sex addict, any person is a sex addict.

  • Donald Michael
    July 01, 2010 - 19:59

    This post is very problematic. Sarah and her husband have deep communication problems. He isn't communicating with her, manifesting with physiological responses or being fidgety. She either doesn't try to communicate with him to discover the problem or can't communicate with him and shows that she doesn't trust him by invading his privacy. Ignoring the issues of the breakdown of communication and trust, Chris Zdeb now uses Sarah--who seems to base her knowledge on looking at a test on a website--as an expert. She is not.

    Sarah (and, I assume the website that gives her expertise) claims that his coming ...from a home where there was no bond between him and his mother. His parents were very domineering, not nurturing, not loving, and they shamed him. Everything he did was never good enough. This, she claims, makes him a textbook case. She doesn't explain how tens of thousands of people with similar upbringing don't feel it is necessary to break vows of marriage fidelity.

    Whether or not sex addiction is a real illness has nothing to do with this couple. Their issues are trust, communication, honesty, and the development of effective coping mechanisms to deal with personal issues. His breaking of marital vows are only a manifestation of these issues. I would respectfully suggest that they both need counseling as individuals and as a couple.

  • Sounding
    July 01, 2010 - 19:59

    Ladies! Listen! Red flags are working on a report or checking the lotto results at 1.30 am every night on the computer and those Blackberry's.. the sex addiction thing is a farce. The Roman's knew how to party

  • Anne
    July 01, 2010 - 19:57

    Women are nuts, I wonder would he have been as sympathic if the shoe was on the other foot. I'd take the kids and run.

  • Whaddaya At ?
    July 01, 2010 - 19:57

    It seems that 99% of so called 'sex addicts' are married. Hmmm.

  • Real
    July 01, 2010 - 19:53

    Really? Someone got married at 18 and there's a problem? You don't say...

  • Jerome
    July 01, 2010 - 19:50

    To First Post: I'd rather know than be made a complete fool of, and even more so, total disrespect. How many would know, except me? Certainly it would hurt; it would be absolutely devastating; but I would rather know.
    As for privacy, if he is using the
    home computer, then he should know that the possibility of being found out exists. A home computer is for everyone in the household to use. The person should have more of a conscience than be carrying on like this on the computer when his wife/partner is close by.

  • Tim
    July 01, 2010 - 19:46

    To whom is this man married? I believe it is the one who has the right to know what is happening without her (or the rest of her family's) knowledge. Go away with your politically correct illusions of reality.