Gay couples in Britain waited decades for the right to get married. When the opportunity came, some had just days to plan the biggest moment of their lives.
Londoners Sean Adl-Tabatabai and Sinclair Treadway registered their intent to marry on March 13, the first day same-sex couples could sign up for wedding ceremonies under Britain’s new law. Eager to be part of history, the two men picked the earliest possible moment — just after midnight Friday, when the act legalizing same-sex marriage took effect.
The rainbow flag, a symbol of the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community, is seen on a building in central London close to Nelson’s Column in Trafalgar Square Friday. — Photo by Lefteris Pitarakis/The Associated Press
Wee-hours wedding ceremonies like theirs were taking place across England and Wales, while Scotland follows in the fall. It’s a sign of a profound shift in attitudes in a country that little more than a decade ago had a law on the books banning the “promotion” of homosexuality.
“Some people say, ‘You gays are trying to redefine marriage,’ but the definition of marriage has already changed,” said Treadway, a 20-year-old student originally from Los Angeles. “Now it’s between two people who love each other.”
Most Britons agree. Polls show about two-thirds of people in the country back same-sex unions, and support is highest among the young. Britain has seen none of the large street protests against same-sex marriage that have taken place in France.
Same-sex marriage has been welcomed with enthusiasm by Britain’s Conservative-led government. Rainbow flags went up over two government buildings Friday in what Deputy Prime Minister Nick Clegg called “a small symbol to celebrate a massive achievement.” Many local authorities offered midnight weddings, competing to hold the first ceremonies.
Treadway and Adl-Tabatabai, a 32-year-old TV producer from London, will be married in front of 100 guests at London’s Camden Town Hall, before emerging to the strains of “I Got You, Babe” by Sonny and Cher. Guests will travel by double-decker bus to the late-night reception, where they will enjoy drinking, dancing and that most British of dishes: curry.
It would have been unthinkable in the 1980s, when prime minister Margaret Thatcher’s government passed a law banning schools and local authorities from “promoting” homosexuality or depicting it as “a pretended family relationship.”
That law wasn’t repealed until 2003. Yet when Parliament legalized same-sex marriage in July, it was by a wide margin and with the backing of Conservative Prime Minister David Cameron.
There was some heated rhetoric — mostly from traditionalists in Parliament’s unelected upper chamber, the House of Lords — but ordinary Britons overwhelmingly supported same-sex marriage.
“What has amazed me is how much of Britain, how quickly, has moved toward backing us on this,” columnist and former Conservative lawmaker Matthew Parris told Sky News on Friday.
Some cite the transitional step of civil partnership, a compromise introduced in 2005 that gave same-sex couples the same legal protections and rights as heterosexual married partners — but not the label of marriage.
Adl-Tabatabai said civil partnerships had helped some people overcome their opposition to gay relationships.
“Their preconceptions of gay people and what their lifestyles are like are kind of changing,” he said. “They’re like, ‘OK, I hate to say it, but maybe you’re like us.’”
The government also defused some opposition by exempting religious groups from conducting same-sex weddings unless they choose to opt in. Quakers and Liberal Judaism are among the few who have done so. The Church of England, the country’s biggest faith, remains divided on the issue and does not conduct same-sex weddings.
Britain is the 15th country to legalize same-sex marriage, which is also legal in several U.S. states. But the march of gay rights is not universal — several countries, including Uganda and Russia, have recently introduced anti-gay laws.
—By Jill Lawless