Chris, in his early 40s, admits he was physically violent towards his partner on a few occasions. A former alcoholic, there were times when that disease, combined with jealousy and irritability, resulted in a rage so strong it left his wife with bruises.
On two occasions, she left, spending up to a week with relatives, but returned after he pleaded with her.
"Yes, of course, I felt bad every single time," Chris says. "I felt like the world's biggest asshole when I saw the bruises on her arms.
"When I was crying to her and saying I was sorry and begging her to come home, I wasn't just saying it - I had every intention of changing and never hurting her again. I knew it was bad and I knew she had every right to leave, but my anger got the better of me, every time," Chris said.
"I'm not saying it's an excuse, because, you know, I'm responsible for my own actions, but the way I grew up, let's say I didn't really…