It is with great sadness, disappointment and extreme frustration that I am responding to most of the comments in response to the article “CFAs provide a big boost for women’s
v-ball team,” The Telegram, Monday, Aug. 5.
Speaking about the Canada Games outcome, please remember it is a team sport. They all rise and fall as a team! The joy of volleyball is that it is impossible to succeed with a few “star players.”
Did they perform to the best they should have? No, but did they represent? Yes!
Now regarding the “CFAs.” My daughter did not just come to N.L. for just university alone, she gave up several volleyball scholarship offers at top universities in Ontario and Alberta to play volleyball in the Atlantic region.
To her, it was about the experience and learning about a new way of life, one that boasted about the small-town living, the kindness of strangers and the beauty of the environment she is living in.
She chose to leave her university in New Brunswick as a setter with scholarship offers and as rookie of the year in the ACAA to become part of what was supposed to be the start to a new volleyball family, because to her volleyball wasn’t just about the game and being the best, it is also about learning, growing together, supporting one another and pushing yourself to become even better.
She has sacrificed time away from her friends and family to become part of N.L.
There have been some bright spots, but also some extremely negative and hurtful experiences — to go through a whole volleyball season and, now, summer games, as an outsider knowing that no one wants you there, not because of your skills but because of where you come from, because you have stolen a place from someone that “belongs” from there.
She didn’t take a place from someone else.
She earned her place! She has put in the relentless hours of practices, the years of dedication, the years of not hanging out with friends and family and untold amounts of $$ to pursue a dream.
She chose N.L.!
I raised her to believe that wherever you hang your hat it is your home. Treat it with respect, kindness, be responsible and give back.
She has taken an active part in what is happening in N.L., not just as a volleyball player but as a citizen.
She has done nothing but promote “your” province to the outside world through sport, bringing focus to environmental issues and tourism.
She has had the incredible luxury and earned the right of being trained by some of the top coaches in both Canada and the U.S.A. She has so much knowledge she wants to offer and share, but instead you slam her and make her want to leave.
She has not only the knowledge but the skill to help grow your younger players. Despite how people view her, she has been asked and will share that know-how with the younger players from around her province, N.L., because it is where she chose to hang her hat.
N.L. is where she lives, works, who she represents and the colours she chose to wear!
If you want to make your Newfoundland and Labrador Volleyball Association players strong, it starts with an attitude, the attitude of hard work, earning your spot, pushing harder than anyone else is willing to push and — most importantly — respect and learning from those that have something to teach no matter where they are from.
Someday, your child or grandchild may be seeking the opportunity to excel or live a new experience and hopefully as a “CFA” they will be treated better than my daughter has been.
They will be welcomed with open arms, because there will be someone like me making sure that they are taken care of, loved and cherished for all they have to offer, as they deserve to feel like they belong because that is where they chose to hang their hat!
P.S. Thank you Robin Short for the wonderful story. It was greatly appreciated.
A proud mom of a Newfoundlander.