The election is over. I lost! Half the people in the City of St. John’s have spoken and decided who their council members will be. None of them are women and why that has become an issue disgusts me.
Defeated mayoral candidate Sheilagh O’Leary is quoted as saying, “it’s disgraceful.” Retired deputy mayor Shannie Duff echoed those comments. And I, defeated candidate Tom Badcock, may be quoted as saying that I have never heard such BS in my entire life.
I can’t remember any of the men getting up in arms when the premier, the leader of the Opposition and the leader of the Third Party were women. But as soon as we get a council where there are no women, the tree-huggers, the heritage hounds, the women’s libbers, if that term in still in vogue, raise their ugly heads.
Everything I ever learned in life that was worth learning, I learned from a woman, my mom; how to wipe my bum, to brush my teeth, to make my bed, to dress myself, and how to respect women. My dad said simply, “Tom, my son, they are not like us.”
Women are not equal to men. They are far superior and I am sick and tired of the inferior card being played by women. We all watched a recent commercial on TV where a man wanted to put a TV in his bathroom and his wife ordered him to remove it. We men just shrugged our heads. However, if the roles had been reversed, there would have been bloody hell to pay.
The council we will have in this city has been elected not only by men but also by women. In case nobody is aware, women do have the vote and for those of us who were privy to those who voted and who didn’t vote, we know that the majority of voters were women, especially seniors. As anyone knows, women live longer than men and because of attitudes like those of O’Leary and Duff, it’s no surprise.
The women voters of this city chose men to be on council. (One lady told me she had voted for me, but she had to vote for Lorne Loder because he’s a hunk! I trust that all decisions were not as fickle as that one.)
Let’s look as some of the choices we all had. Sarah Colborne Penney, in a letter to the editor in The Telegram on Dec. 27, 2006 wrote, “we should subject those in our population who are classified, medically, as obese, to a higher tax rate, in order to compensate our health care system for the higher burden the obese are placing on the system.” She went on to write, “Alberta denies access to health care to individuals who are obese. I think this is appropriate.” Do we really want a person like this serving on council? Women said no.
This purpose of writing this is not to discredit the female candidates in the election but to show with one example why both women and men chose who they chose to serve on council.
I am the male manager of a business and all of my lieutenants are women. They have a saying, “Tom is the boss, when we let him be.” No one in politics, in business, in family, or in life, works successfully in isolation. Men and women, do, in 2013 consult each other and we value each other’s perspectives. Women’s liberation is dead. Women have been liberated. Let’s move on.
Men don’t work in isolation. Those of us who have female partners know that we consult them on all decisions we make.
Do you really think that Hillary Clinton did not influence Bill’s decisions? Who really was the president of the United States, Nancy or Ronald? Don’t you think that Doc O’Keefe’s wife bends his ear on occasion?
What is a woman’s perspective? I don’t know and I doubt very much if there are many women out there who can define it. We all want safe streets, clean drinking water, lower taxes, better services, more daycare and better recreational services. I’d like for someone to tell me the gender-related policies that this council and future councils will define that don’t consult women before implemented.
Were the policies espoused by the candidates in this past election that radically different between men and women candidates? I think not.
This silly debate has got to stop. In today’s society with two working spouses, progressive spouses share maternal duties. Sure, some women choose to leave the workforce and stay home, but some men also make the same decisions.
Am I a better man because my mom stayed at home instead of working? I doubt it. Are my kids worse off because my wife and I chose to work outside the home? I doubt that, too. But of course, we can cite examples of children who are not being properly parented by working parents. Again, I can quote an article by Ms. Colborne Penney on this subject that paints the majority of working parents as poor parents. I take exception to what she wrote, as I’m sure voters did.
George Eliot wrote, “I’m not denying the women are foolish: God Almighty made ’em to match the men.”
Stop the foolishness now!
Tom Badcock is a man who still does
not understand women and doubts if he ever will. He writes from St. John’s.